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August 20, 2008
Angel Adams
Angel Adams
A Walk in the Rain with a Brain!
Edward M. Hallowell, M.D.
www.drhallowell.com

Regan Books (Imprint of Harper Collins Publishers)
 

For Lucy, Jack, and Tucker Hallowell

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I wrote this story for my children, because I wanted them to discover and enjoy who they are and not grow up believing that being smart (whatever that means) is the key to a happy life.
Angel's Picks
"All Will Be Well" by Michael Meegan
Excerpt - Like all great mysteries, the secrets of inner joy are very simple. They thrive all around us and are, as with everything that really matters, within our grasp. The dance we spoke of is simply the living of a happy life, a life full of love. Some people are so connected to the stream of life that Rabindranath Tagore speaks of that they exude not just happiness but energy.For us all, every thought, every word, every interaction is energy. Each time we laugh, cry, watch television, go shopping - in everything we do there is an energy given and absorbed. A happy life requires positive energy, solution focused thinking and a big ‘yes’ approach. It also requires a lot of giving. Not simply giving to others but giving, in a new way, to ourselves by reclaiming space, making time, creating positive experiences. Just by being kind to ourselves. In our can do, must work, rush by society, this kind of self caring is not instilled in us.As we walk through life we encounter people who drain us, others who leave us indifferent but there are also those, every now and then, who uplift us; those who, through their own energy, inspire and awaken us. The people who inspire me invariably have a boundless sense of fun, a childlike enthusiasm and with it a delicious sense of adventure and discovery. Because they delight in everything they have no anxiety. People can succeed at almost anything when they have enough enthusiasm. The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams. The future belongs to you even as you decide now to live them. Magic is all about us. It fills the fabric of creation. The dance can fill our lives if we take the time to see it. The laughter of a child, an unspoken connection with a stranger, moments of harmony with nature. In everything there is the call to become, to belong, and the promise of light. Click here to order at Amazon.

"Survival Tips for Women with Ad/Hd: Beyond Piles, Palms, & Post-Its" by Terry Matlen
An outstanding compilation of practical solutions to everyday problems for women with AD/HD. Containing a wide variety of ideas to help you: Organize your home and office • Parent with patience and perseverance • Take the anxiety out of meal planning • Manage the endless stacks of papers • Remember the priorities that deserve your attention. Click here to order at Amazon.

"ADHD and the Criminal Justice System: Spinning Out of Control" by Patrick J. Hurley and Robert Eme Ph.D
This book is designed for the families with loved ones, police, jails, judges, prosecutors, defense attorneys, probation, prisons, halfway houses and parole officials.  If you work in any aspect of the justice system or know someone who does, this book could make a huge difference in how "offenders" who have ADHD are treated. Click here to order this book at a specially discounted pre-publishing price

"Hold On to Your Kids : Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers " by Gordon Neufeld and Gabor Mate MD
The concepts, principles and practical advice contained in Hold On to Your Kids will help empower parents to satisfy their children’s inborn need to find direction by turning towards a source of authority, contact and warmth. Available in April 2005, but you can Click here to pre-order at Amazon.com (US store).

Also by Gabor Mate MD: "When the Body Says No: Understanding the Stress-disease Connection"
The body's quintessential stress hormone is cortisol, from the adrenal gland, released in response to stressful stimuli.  The long-term effects of cortisol (or cortisol-type medications) are, among others: thinning of the bones and of the skin, a reduction of immune activity, weakness of muscles, and shrinking of the hippocampus, an essential brain locus of memory. The stress of chronic caregiving, it's been shown in studies, reduces people's capacity to withstand infections and prolongs wound healing. You can find out more, and read Chapter 1 by clicking here. To order direct from Amazon please Click here.

"Parenting the AD/HD Child: A New Approach" by Eduardo Bustamante
This excellent book is unfortunately out of print, but you may be able to buy a copy secondhand.
Click here
to place an order at Amazon.

Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD)
Nancy Thomas's book, "When Love is not Enough" is highly recommended for parents or foster parents who have children with RAD, Conduct Disorder or other severe behavioural conditions. Unfortunately it is out of print and difficult to obtain. Luckily Nancy Thomas also has some great information on her website for parents who want to know more.
Click here to visit Nancy's Website.


"Surviving Your Adolescents: How to Manage and Let Go of Your 13-18 Year Olds" by Thomas W. Phelan, Ph.D.
Living with a teenager is no picnic. There are times when you must bite your tongue as they push towards independence. Or--if you sense there is trouble--there are times when you must take charge. Surviving Your Adolescents gives you a step-by-step approach that will help end the hassles and offer concrete solutions.
Click here
to place an order at Amazon.

"Surviving the Special Educational Needs System: How to Be a Velvet Bulldozer" by Sandy Row
Living day to day with a child who has autism, an attention deficit- hyperactivity disorder, or a specific learning disorder such as dyslexia, can be both physically and psychologically draining for families. It is a process which requires an abundance of support, including a true partnership between parents, teachers and their Local Education Authority. Sandy Row's moving account of her family's battle against all odds is truly inspiring - Acting as a no-nonsense, practical and intelligent guide, Sandy helps parents learn how to chart their way through the potentially turbulent waters of the Special Educational Needs system. Click here to place an order at Amazon.
Click here for an excerpt and more information.

"Succeeding in College With Asperger Syndrome" by John Harpur, Maria Lawlor & Michael Fitzgerald
Suceeding in College with Asperger Syndrome demystifies the range of college experiences for students with AS. It is a must for these students, their parents and counselors alike, providing benefits that will continue throughout the college years and beyond. Click here to order at Amazon.
One Wet Day in May (extract) .....
One wet day in May

When I went out to play

I heard near the ground

A swishing-like sound

What I thought was just rain

Was, of all things, a brain!

It looked like a lump of gray smoke.

But then it surprised me-and spoke!

"Hello, little girl, I'm a brain,

Out here in the rain.

Manfred's my name, for short it's just Fred,

And I've just lost my head."

"My name is Lucy," I said.

I didn't know what else to say.

He looked so sad, wrinkled, and gray,

I wanted to give him a cuddle.

When I offered my hand,

He managed to stand

And I helped him get out of the puddle.

"If I don't find my head,

Soon I'll be dead," Fred said,

So we went off in search of Fred's head.

We talked as we walked. Soon I asked from my heart,

"Fred, could you please . . . please make me smart?"

"My dear little girl,

With one little curl,"

Said Fred with a start,

"You're already smart!"

"But how can that be?"

I asked, honestly,

"If try as I might,

I never get anything right?"

"We're all smart," Fred said.

"We just need to find out at what.

I'll explain. Listen up!

"A long time ago, before there were rules,

Being different was awesome and cool.

All brains liked to play

And day after day

Each brain found its own special way.

Then a brain named Inane yelled, 'Hey! Wait!

I am going to create

A word for what's best,

So some brains can rule all the rest.

Let's make up a test!'

"When the young brains objected,

This one brain infected

The rest with a word

They should have rejected.

'Smart! That's what is best in a brain!

Now let me explain:

If you think like me,

Then smart you will be . . .

But if you do not,

You'll be dumb as a mop,

And never will rise to the top.'

The brains were confused.

Smart was a word they had never used.

But Inane just persisted,

'You cannot resist it!

The future insists it!

Be smart-or you'll miss it!

"For years, all bowed down.

Till one day a brave brain named Tru

Said, 'Inane, I'm tired of you!

You never do anything new.

No brain is the best!

You are just an old pest.'

Tru then told the others that day,

'Forget all Inane has to say!

Each brain has its own special way.

Some can grow roses,

While others draw noses . . .'

Inane got so mad he could pop!

And he angrily barked, 'Oh, please, stop!

We all know that smart is on top!'

"'But what does smart mean?'

Tru asked with a wink.

'It really means less than you think.

What matters is finding your groove.

Some brains can sing, some skate in a ring,

While others find spelling a cinch.

All brains have some talents,

And no brain does everything well.

'So smart doesn't matter?'

Gasped one brain, wide-eyed,

Who usually just tried to hide.

Tru then replied,

'We're all smart inside.

We just need to find out at what.

What we each need to do

As we grow, me and you,

Is find something we like to do well.

"'Find something you like,

Like riding a bike,

Or bowling a strike,

And have fun with your brain every day.

Brains do best when they play,

Or learn something new.

That's what we brains love to do.'

Tru then told Inane,

As he tried to complain,

'Be quiet. Your reign is now ended,

You only pretended

That one way was best

So you could be bossy

And rule all the rest.'

The brain in the rain then smiled up at me,

And said, "Thank you for bringing me home, Lucy.

Remember the words of the brain named Tru,

And your brain will help in all that you do."

The sight of him climbing back into his head

Was the last that I saw of Manfred, called Fred.

Ned--Was the last time I saw my friend Fred?

But he said just once more,

As he dipped out of sight,

"No brains is the same,

No brain is the best,

Each brain finds its own special way."